A Connection That Ties
A Connection That Ties
In the past, we have examined how to develop and experience healthy, authentic relationships. We discussed that we build “God and good relationships” on the cornerstone foundation of God’s love. After all, 1 John 3:13,14 states, “The person who does not love is spiritually dead.”
Human beings were created for fulfilling relationships with each other and with God. Relationships can greatly influence many aspects of our lives – even our destiny. Relationships are the currency of the kingdom. Today, I want to introduce how relationships can create wrongful control of our soul that become ungodly and how to receive deliverance through Jesus Christ.
“When the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, He opened her womb; but Rachal was barren. So Leah conceived and bore a son and she called his name Reuben; for she said ‘The Lord has surely looked on my affliction. Now, therefore, my husband will love me.’
Then she conceived again and bore a son, and said ‘Because the Lord has heard that I am unloved, He has therefore given me this son also, and she called his name Simeon.’
She conceived again and bore a son and said ‘Now this time my husband will become attached to me, because I have bore him three sons.’ Therefore, his name was called Levi.
And she conceived again and bore a son and said ‘Now, I will praise the Lord.’ Therefore, she called his name Judah. Then she stopped bearing.”
Genesis 29:31-35 (NKJV)
Life is relational. We are created for connection. A “soul-tie” is a cleaving together of two souls. It is a relationship whereby two souls are “joined” or “knitted together,” and in a sense become as one.
The word “tie” is defined as: “to attach, bind, fasten, a bond of kinship or affection, as to unite in marriage.”
A soul tie connects you to another person, but there is always a cost. Sometimes the “cost” of being “tied” or “connected” to that person is that you forsake all others, as in marriage. When a man marries a woman, he is connected to her for life, and forsakes all others.
Soul-ties exist because God wanted close godly bonds between His people. They were intended for man’s best interest as part of the design of God; to provide a healthy, nurturing two-way flow of love.
Soul ties are not just between husband and wife, or relegated to marriage only. See what the scriptures say about Jonathan and David’s friendship:
“And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
1 Samuel 18:1
Jonathan and David were like brothers after this point. This relationship was a key part of David’s fulfilling his destiny as king. David needed time in the palace to be around King Saul and understand how a king does certain things. David could never have gotten as close to King Saul if it were not for his strong friendship with Jonathan. Jonathan’s care for David meant that Jonathan did not view David as a rival for the throne, but instead loved David as he loved himself. God ordained a special friendship for David in the midst of the most confusing and exciting times of his life.
The word “tie” also carries another connotation: “to restrain from independence or freedom of action or choice; to constrain as if by authority, influence, agreement or obligation.”
The enemy comes to corrupt and pervert that which God designed as pure in order to steer those bound together by “his yoke” into greater darkness and disorder. If the enemy can “tie” you to the wrong person, he can derail your destiny and alter your life forever.
All human soul-ties must be counterbalanced by a love for Jesus. Leah, had a soul tie that became an “idol” in her life. She kept producing something good, but she did it for wrong reasons.
In modern times, we think of idols as statues Greek goddesses or little men with round bellies. However, that is not what defines an idol.
An idol is the thing you worship. It is the thing you yield your strength to.
I understand that most of us do not have shrines in our homes or places of work. That does not eliminate the possibility that many of us have idols.
Do you realize that you can worship someone or something simply by paying too much attention to it? A person can be an idol in your life if you spend that life trying to impress them rather than the God you serve. By allowing someone’s opinion to determine your value, or allowing their perception to validate you, you are opening the door to living for someone else rather than God. It is an idol!
God declares in Exodus 20:3-5
“You shall have no other gods before Me…. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God.”
You can do a right thing in a wrong way, like Leah did. Leah birthed child after child, thinking it would win her the affections of her husband. Living life this way kept her doing the same thing over and over again for a while. She was doing the right thing for the wrong reason. At this point in time, Leah wasn’t focused on the fact that God had opened her womb. She just said, “Now my husband will love me. Now my husband will be attached to me.”
In the same way, doing the right things for the wrong reason will always leave you empty and going back for what you will never be satisfied with. Like in the life of Leah, you may birth blessings that you don’t fully enjoy, because you are doing a right thing for a wrong reason.
That is, until you confront the sick cycle that is occurring. At a certain point, after she had given birth to Judah, Leah surrendered all of her striving and all of her fighting, and said, “Now I will praise the Lord.” Finally, Leah had peace about her situation.
We know her situation wasn’t the best. They didn’t have electricity, deodorant or running water back then. Life was harder and full of a lot of work. In addition, Leah was the unloved daughter who grew up to be the despised wife. She grew up in her beautiful sister’s shadow, only to be married off to live in the same. She would have become an old maid, but her own Daddy tricked someone into marrying her. So Leah is hungry and aching to know what it feels like to be loved and desired, and has been for a long, long time.
Why does Leah want Jacob’s love so bad? Where there is a wound, there is vulnerability, or a “chink” in the armor. Vulnerability can be an entrance to the enemy to create idols and ungodly soul-ties in your life. Why do I do the things I do?
By examining Leah’s life, God will liberate you from your own form of vulnerabilities and from your false gods. In the past, we have examined how to develop and experience healthy, authentic relationships. We discussed that we build “God and good relationships” on the cornerstone foundation of God’s love. After all, 1 John 3:13, 14 states, “The person who does not love is spiritually dead.” We’re going to go further now into the unseen area of the soul.
Human beings were created for fulfilling relationships with each other and with God. The wrong relationships can gain control over our soul that becomes sick and ungodly.
Any time Satan wants to derail your destiny, you can bet that he will send a person to “tie” you to whom will take you in the wrong direction. Soul-ties were originally intended to provide a healthy, nurturing two-way flow of love. If that has happened to you or to anyone you know, stay with us this month – because we’re going to learn how to receive deliverance through Jesus Christ.
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